Have you ever really listened to what your body is telling you? Like really listened? I strongly believe that our body sends us signals all the time and we need to learn to listen to it. As women we have been fed this dribble about having it all, having the career, the kids, the house, the nice car, the weekly yoga lessons we can even have our cake and eat it too. But what happens when we have it all and we are struggling to keep up with “it all”? Do we really need and want it all?
Having it all means juggling 10 balls in the air hoping that you catch each one as they come down then transferring it to the other hand and throwing it up again. Having it all is certainly not easy and it creates so much unneccesary stress on our bodies. Instead of having it all women need to have choices, I want women to choose whether they want that life for themselves or whether they are fuelled by guilt, what others think of them, fear of letting the balls fall or fear of failure. I think women have come so far from the 1950s housewife and I’m so grateful for that but I also feel that there is so much pressure on women today to live up to everyone elses expectations.
Sometimes letting the ball fall is not the absolute worse thing that can happen to you… it could even save your life. Let me tell you the story of my incredible friend – Miss Wonder Woman, she would never stop. She had an incredible career which would often mean lots of overtime, she was delving into the property market out of personal interest which meant she was constantly educating herself reading, attending conferences etc. At the same time she fell in love with a wonderful man which led to wedding planning (God knows that can be a full time job in itself!). She was also single handedly organising a charity dinner in honour of her late mother! And on top of all that this amazing woman bought her first investment property and was spending almost every waking hour renovating. She was doing it all! I was in awe of her I wanted to have her energy and get up and go! But her life came to a grinding halt when at just 32 she suffered a stroke.
I was shocked! I remember questioning her saying but your only 32 years old. People don’t have strokes at 32 years old especially incredibly healthy, fit 32 year olds. But I’ve come to realise they do for a number of different reasons. People younger and younger are suffering terrible health problems because they simply don’t stop! They live and breathe stress. My bestie is ok she has suffered some brain damage but miraculously she is still the incredible woman I’ve come to know and love. She has a long road to recovery but she is making progress in leaps and bounds!
We have had so many conversations about her future and what next as we are both so goal orientated. But for now she needs to stop and listen to her body. She hasn’t listened to her body in a long time and has forgotten what it feels like to hear it! In retrospect she says her body was trying to tell her to slow down but she never heard it nor did she listen to it. Just one more conference, one more day renovating, one more hour of wedding planning…
The sad reality of the world we live in today means that we never get to switch off, People can call us 24 hours a day, text messages, emails , phones, Facebook etc etc. We are constantly on the go and trying to do it all. But our bodies are not designed that way, we are not designed to live in “fight or flight mode” to get our shit done. We should not be living off adrenaline and caffeine.
Our bodies, our lives and our children are a gift. Each of us are beautiful, intelligent, unique individuals who matter to so many people, especially our children. There is no one the world like you and there never will be! You are so incredibly special and you are here on this earth to serve your purpose! if you don’t stop you may not be around to watch your children grow up or watch your babies have their own babies. The basket of washing can wait till you have put your feet up and had a coffee. For those mums that have and do it all perhaps you need to question whether having it all is really what you want or are you being guilted in feeling like its what you really want? Could sacrificing your lifestyle mean that you feel less pressure and stress? You only have one life so please enjoy it, love it and be grateful for it! I thought having it all would bring with it happiness but it made me even more miserable. I felt like I was a mouse on a spinning wheel trying desperately not to fall off…
Its time each of us are honest with ourselves and looked internally for our value and worth instead of placing our value on how much we accomplish each day. Slow down and smell the sunflowers, put your feet up and relax without your phone or tablet and just sit. Learn to take the time to just be at peace with yourself as the incredible miracle that you are!
And as always if you would like to know more or connect with me then check out my website selfcareforsupermamas.wordpress.com or jump over to my Facebook page Self Care for Super Mama’s. Take the time this week to love and self care because you are a wonderful mother and you totally deserve it! You only get one chance at life so lets make it the best life ever!